Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling
Are You And Your Spouse Feeling Disconnected?
Have you become distant from your spouse? Are you both finding it hard to communicate? Do you ever feel isolated and lonely within your marriage or relationship?
Perhaps you’re both having trouble communicating openly. You might be arguing constantly, or perhaps you rarely talk about your problems at all and hide your feelings instead. Either way, you know that communication has soured between the two of you. You often feel unheard, and your conversations with your spouse tend to go nowhere.
Maybe you even find yourself wondering if you really belong together. You wonder if you and your spouse are really on the same path, and you question whether you can meet each other’s needs. You feel a deep sense of loss when you reflect on what you and your spouse once had. You felt like you were meant to be together, and now you don’t see eye to eye on anything.
As much as you miss the love you once had, you may not know what to do to repair your relationship. Sometimes, your worries may keep you up at night. The overwhelming stress over your marriage can lead to physical pain, perhaps even headaches or stomach aches.
The problems in your marriage don’t mean that your relationship is beyond saving. You will receive support and guidance from our supportive marriage and family therapist here at Inward Counseling. You and your spouse can remember why you fell in love, rediscover each other’s best qualities, and revive the spark that brought you together with the help of couples therapy.
Every Couple Faces Obstacles
No marriage is perfect. Every single couple will encounter challenges over the course of their relationship. But it’s easy for a couple facing difficulties to assume that others aren’t dealing with similar issues. This only deepens the shame that many people feel when they’re having problems in their own marriage.
Relationship problems are often rooted in family history. Both partners may struggle with secure attachment within their families when growing up. It’s hard to form a healthy attachment within an adult relationship. Many people unknowingly model the relationships they witnessed while growing up, and as a result, they mirror behavioral patterns that do not benefit their marriage.
Additionally, with so many people working long hours and juggling lots of responsibilities, it’s hard for spouses to make time for each other. Sometimes, quality time is pushed to the back burner in favor of other obligations. Over months or years, a couple’s connection can slowly erode.
Marriage problems are hard for couples to overcome on their own, especially if they’re dealing with communication issues. Oftentimes, a third-party perspective can be very valuable. Our online therapy services, offered by a skilled marriage and family therapist, are available to couples in both North Carolina and California. Couples therapy will help with handling problems that have cropped up more recently, while guiding you through emotional blocks that affect connection.
You do not have to resign yourself to the idea that your marriage is destined to fail. Nurture your connection with your spouse with help from a marriage and family therapist.
Relationship Counseling Can Help You Strengthen Your Romantic Bond
Deciding to seek relationship counseling in Charlotte, NC, does not mean that your marriage must be on the verge of ending. Couples therapy shows that both of you are invested in your future together. You both want to make genuine progress through life’s challenges as a team. Furthermore, you do not have to be married to seek counseling. Relationship counseling is also beneficial for couples who are dating, engaged, or cohabiting.
Voice your honest concerns in couples therapy. With our mental health professional, you can openly discuss problems without fear of judgment in a supportive environment. Come to your session with an open mindset, learn healthy communication skills, and grow closer together through a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamics.
Prior to your initial session together, you and your spouse will fill out an intake form to describe why you decided to attend marriage therapy. Our family therapist will spend time getting to the roots of the issues you’ve been facing, explore each of your family histories, and the relationship models that you were exposed to growing up.
Through relationship counseling, you’ll gain new insights into communication patterns. You may have picked up these patterns from your parents or other relatives. You and your spouse will learn to trace some of your recurring problems. Some may lead back to unresolved issues within your family.
Our mental health professional will also explain attachment dynamics. Many couples struggle with this at some point in their marriages. In this attachment “dance,” one partner tends to pursue, while the other pulls away. The more distant one partner becomes, the more the pursuer craves connection. In couples therapy, you’ll learn how to find a balance, fostering your connection and maintaining your own independence.
You will also work on grounding techniques so that you can center yourself. This helps to remain calm in the midst of difficult conversations and life transitions. You and your spouse will practice using “I” messages to communicate your own needs. This involves telling stories about your own experiences. While resisting the urge to point fingers or blame your spouse.
In our practice, attachment theory is an integral modality for marriage therapy. You can work on developing a secure attachment to your spouse. Furthermore, our therapist, Thomas Floyd, can also incorporate Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT. Emotionally Focused Therapy can help you understand your emotional reactions. So that you can respond in a healthy, productive way when problems arise.
Thomas also has training in the Gottman Method of couples therapy!
As a skilled marriage and family therapist and mental health professional, Thomas has helped many couples heal their relationships and build a more fulfilling life together. You do not have to feel hopeless about your relationship’s future. Through marriage therapy, you can find a happier path forward as a couple.
But you may still have questions about marriage counseling…
What if my spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy?
Marriage therapy will only be effective if both partners willingly attend. If your spouse says they’re not interested, we encourage you to take some time to listen to their concerns and explain why you think working with a family therapist will be beneficial. It may take some patience. However, making sure that your spouse is on board with relationship counseling is the key to getting the most out of therapy. What’s more, Thomas would be more than happy to talk to your spouse about why they think marriage therapy can help.
Does attending marriage counseling mean we could end up separating?
Working with a marriage and family therapist does not mean that separation is inevitable. Many couples manage to overcome problems in their relationship because of what they learned in couples therapy. In fact, pursuing therapy means that you both care deeply about the future of your marriage, and you’re willing to put in the effort to improve your connection.
Is it okay to seek couples counseling if my spouse and I aren’t facing a crisis?
Of course! Even if you’re both quite happy in your relationship, it never hurts to come in for a “tune-up” to develop better communication skills. Work on strategies that can help you navigate challenging situations in the future. Doing so can strengthen your relationship so that crises are averted. You are more prepared for them if they do happen.
Online Marriage Counseling
We Can Help You Rekindle Your Love through marriage therapy. Request a free, 15-minute consultation or call us at 704-255-5114 to learn more about our supportive family therapist and couples therapy offerings in North Carolina and California.
Other Services Offered At Inward Counseling
At Inward Counseling, our therapist offers online therapy. Our mental health professional uses a variety of techniques to support your healing! Thomas also offers individual therapy, anxiety therapy, depression therapy, trauma therapy, and Christian counseling. Feel free to explore our blogs for great reads and tips for managing life transitions and creating a more fulfilling life.
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